Kim Kelley-Wagner has two daughters who were adopted from China. In everyday life, they have been subjected to horrid statements from people - to their faces, to their mother as they stood by her, etc. In this photo collection, shared on her blog, Kim and her daughters (Lily and Meika) put these ignorant cruelties front and center. [x]
"I have tried to explain to my daughters that people do not say these things to be mean, they say them out of ignorance, which is why I am sharing some of them. Words are powerful, they can become tools or weapons, choose to use them wisely."
i’m honestly deeply ashamed because of the harshness of our world
I have heard so many of these things, and one of the most hurtful is “Why didn’t your REAL parents want you.”
More so than the implication that I am a worthless piece of trash that no one, not even the person who carried me for nine months would want (which isn’t even true. I’m the product of an unplanned teenage pregnancy, and my birth mom didn’t have the means to take care of a child.), what hurts more is the idea that the woman who raised me, who took care of me, who pushed me to do my best in every single thing I do in my life and who taught me how to enjoy my life isn’t my REAL mother.
That woman is my REAL mother, because she is the one who raised me, who was my best friend when no one else wanted me, who held me when I cried and took care of me when I was sick. When I was a little shit, she was the one who put me in my place, then went to her room to cry about having to hurt the child she loved so much.
So next time you tell an adopted child that their parents aren’t their real parents, consider who it is you’re talking about.
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